One broad's reluctant journey to the dark side of womanhood.

You don’t know what you don’t know… and sometimes that sucks. February 14, 2011

Filed under: Things that bug me — kerimenopause @ 11:18 am

I am pondering the line from the movie “Mean Girls” today…

“And evil takes a human form in [fill in your own nemesis here]. Don’t be fooled because she may seem like your typical selfish, back-stabbing slut faced ho-bag, but in reality, she’s so much more than that.”

Why? You ask, when clearly my tween/teen days are behind me… waaayyy behind me.  Well, I find it particularly relevant today as a dear friend of mine has shared some of the horrors her beautiful daughter is having to endure in Middle School.  Of course this also brought back some really ugly memories of my own – I wasn’t the Mean Girl in Middle School… but I sure knew a few!  For a time in High School, I was not particularly nice… but, when that tactic still didn’t make me popular, I gave up and just became a fun girl. Some may say a ‘party’ girl… but that I must deny.

Back to my friend’s daughter… This girl is stunningly beautiful.  She is exceptionally smart. She is a top-notch athlete.  She has a huge heart filled with compassion. So why is she being treated so poorly?  Really, why?  Just re-read all highlighted sentences.  It’s the exact same reasons grown women crap on each other all the time.  (I know ‘crap’ is such an ugly word… but, what can I say, I really like that word!)

Girls are mean, we know that.  Girls are jealous, we know that.  Girls are insecure, we know that.  It is what this girl (the victim) and those girls (the wretched little snots) don’t know, that is causing me pause today.

What they don’t know, may never know, may not care to know… which are incidentally the same things their 30-50 yr old counterparts don’t know, may never know, and may not care to know:

  • Every rotten thing they say or do WILL come back to bite them in the ass eventually.
  • Be a bully today, and you will probably be the victim tomorrow.
  • Being in, and being out changes as often as the weather.
  • ONE really good friend is better to have than being in the middle of a pack of simpletons.

My friend said something so very, very wise regarding this situation and her daughter.  “She has to walk this journey… (she) will encounter this ugly beast along the way.”  Admirable.

She also said, “I’m so pissed, I could spit nails.” That’s what I’m talkin’ about!

We all know at least one.


2 Responses to “You don’t know what you don’t know… and sometimes that sucks.”

  1. M. Anderson Says:

    I wish I had words of wisdom to share. I don’t.

    We’ve had to deal with bullies in Elementary & Middle School. Bullies aren’t supposed to be tolerated at schools anymore. It’s a frustrating and intense situation for families to find themselves in.

    Prayers and good thoughts for your friend & her daughter…and for all the other kids and parents out there grappling with similar circumstances.

  2. Suzi B Says:

    Holy cow, I love this blog. I need laughs.
    I have to see if you have a Facebook “like” page.

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